How to look after yourself whilst caring for someone else

Some people become carers overnight. When somebody has an accident or is taken ill, they can suddenly need support from those around them. For others, it can happen gradually, such as when parents cannot manage independently, or a partner's health deteriorates.

Only some people realise that they have become a carer. The gradual development of a mental or physical health condition can see someone's needs build over time and their loved one slipping into the role of carer without acknowledging its impact on their lives.

Looking after yourself: top tips

• Take time to be compassionate to yourself
• Be honest with the person. Explain you may not know what they are going through, but that you care and want to help
• Seek support from your local carers support groups – they can be vital in giving you the support you need and helping you speak to people in similar situations
• Make the time to do things you enjoy, such as walking the dog, joining an evening class or meeting friends
• Join the Carers UK online chats - Care for a cuppa. For more information on how to join the Zoom sessions and the dates, visit the Carers UK website
• Acknowledge that you may not be able to ‘fix’ the person you are caring for but that you are there to help and support them.
• If you are struggling, talk to your GP and tell them how your caring role impacts your health. They will be able to offer confidential advice and support
• Reach out to your local Welfare Rights centre, or Citizens Advice, to check that you're receiving all the help money wise that you're entitled to.

Support available in Derbyshire

Derbyshire Carers Association provides vital support to unpaid carers across Derbyshire. They can help carers to balance their caring responsibilities with their own health and well-being. The organisation offers a range of services, including: 

• advice and information
• emotional support
• training
• advocacy
• events and activities

They support carers of all ages, including young carers and parent carers.

Their recently introduced All Age Carers Support Service also provides person-centred support in line with the Derbyshire Carers Strategy.

For more information, visit their website: Derbyshire Carers Association. You can also get in touch by calling: 01773 833 833.

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